Yehuda Berg’s Blog

When we are in conflict with someone, it’s an opportunity to retrieve the spark of Light we lost to them somewhere in the past. We must stop perceiving what’s wrong with their behavior and instead see the pain causing it. Behavior is just a shell. There’s something beneath it.

What we typically do is we talk to the other person’s reaction instead of going beneath and creating affinity. The kabbalists say that even asking ourselves what’s going on with the other person is actually sending them positive energy and loosening the grip they have on our spark.

If you find yourself in conflict with someone today, then practice perceiving their pain. Maybe it’s a bad childhood, or traumatic relationship. Maybe it’s even karmic residue from previous incarnations. Whether or not you find out the answer is not the point. Putting in the effort and care is.

By handling the situation in a proactive manner, by taking the moment to question yourself and see what’s going on beneath the surface, you are on the road to recuperating your lost spark.