One of the problems of illusions that we fall to is we get so involved in what is happening to us, what other people are doing for us, what we have to do for other people. We forget the only reason anything happens to me, the only reason for my interactions with other people. At the end there is only one purpose: My change.

In the Introduction to Ten Luminous Emanations Rav Ashlag quotes a section from the Talmud. It says every person needs to say “the world was created for me.” What does that mean?

Everything here, every interaction today, every interaction in my life, is only for me. Not for the good or the help I will give to others. It’s only for me. All the people in the world and all the interactions that I have in my life are to help me change. The entire world, everything in my life, is for one purpose: To give me the opportunities I need.

These interactions, the other people in the world, help me perfect my qualities. The only reason I have interactions with other people is to perfect myself. Rav Ashlag says that we perfect our qualities until they become the way they are supposed to be for the Light of the Creator.

It’s so easy to start thinking about what I have to do for other people in the sense that creates either worry or all kinds of disconnect from the Light of the Creator.

Often, certainly those of us involved in the spiritual work, and all of us to one degree or another, are teachers of other people. We often get involved with the affects of that work. We forget the only reason for this interaction was for me to grow, for me to change, for me to become a better person.

The situation we are in is because the Creator knows we need to have this interaction to become what we need to be. Everything that is happening in my life is for only one purpose. It is for me to change, for me to grow. If I’m so involved in everybody else, and things that I have to do externally, that I forget that everything that happens is for me to change, for me to grow, I missed everything. No responsibility, no interaction, no work, is for any other purpose than for me to change.

We live in the world of illusion. We think we need to create an outcome. None of that. All these things are in my life because I have to change from them and through them. All the situations, good things and bad things, chaos and positivity, are not here for me to solve or take care of. They are here for me to grow from.

If we really understand it and live it, it can diminish so much worry, and our minds won’t be diminished by this worry.